Ever find yourself feeling completely and totally upset?
Freaking out? Crying a river of tears about seemingly nothing at all? Or crying a river of tears about something or someone very specific just not knowing how to feel better? Basically, I’m talking about those emotional experiences where we feel crushed under the weight of fear, upset, and full-on attachment to the outcome.
I recently had one of these times myself, and I’m talking deep. Fierce emotion. A kind of emotional roller coaster that my typical tools didn’t seem to touch. Waves of anxiety, tears, and an all-around feeling of why-the-hell-can’t-I-shake-this???
And that’s the first thing to note actually… see your own self-judgement when it sneaks in. It magnifies our upset and keeps us in the emotional tornado longer.
Anyway, my recent emotional experience was actually quite ironic. Suffice it to say, I just married the man of my dreams, I’m blissfully happy embarking into this next chapter, and as a result I unearthed some equally deep fears in the other direction. Essentially, I struck an emotional oil geyser unlike anything I’d experienced to date. And even though we know striking oil is a great thing, it first starts with a giant, out-of-control mess, covering everything around it in icky blackness. And I was the little duck with sticky wings who couldn’t swim or fly until I busted out the Dawn dish liquid and did the work to wash off the ick.
So how do we wash off the ick? How do we get back to the clean water and fluffy feathers of emotional clarity and confidence?
How do we a) move through a harsh emotional experience and b) come out the other side feeling the positivity in all we just tackled?