My Tizzle

Hey all… been thinking about lost friends lately given some recent significant losses in the skydiving and BASE jumping world. I wrote my latest Blue Skies Magazine column (that will publish in a month) about another friend and it inspired me to share this column I wrote about my best friend, Jonathan Tagle, after he passed. Sharing about these wonderful people that have touched my life and heart and highest self… yeah, it makes me happy. I’d absolutely say also it makes the world a better place that it gets more of them through my totally intentional sharing.

Yup, let’s hear your stories of your epic people, whether they’re gone or still with us. Stories and memories and gratitude and life connects, inspires, and legit makes a difference.

I hope you enjoy this piece about the person who knew me best.

Big love.

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Blue Skies Magazine, August 2012

Life Coaching Column #27

Issue #34

 

“My Tizzle”

By Melanie Curtis

I find myself writing this sitting in first class wearing my sunglasses so no one will see me cry as I travel home. Pretty poetic in the rock-star vibe of it all given that is completely what Jonathan was. And how I told him all the time how I wanted to be like him.. traveling the world, no boss, kicking ass at life, doing whatever I wanted.. complete LTD. You know, what he did. He’d always laugh at me when I said I wanted to be like him. But he knew I meant it. When I finally made it to that kind of LTD, we’d call me Tizzle 2.0. Totally self-appointed nickname. He was bashful saying it most of the time, but I loved it. To me it felt like I had made it. “Tizzle 2.0” meant I was living my dream, because that’s for f*cking sure what Tizzle 1.0 was all about.

 

How could I ever write anything truly capable of sharing what Jonathan actually is to me? Honestly, I don’t think I can. And I think trying within the scope of 600-900 words in this column will only result in stress and upset for me because the thought of not doing him COMPLETE justice makes me freak the f*ck out. So instead, I’m just going to tell you a story.

 

67737_10151557883823135_1771208953_nImagine sitting at the airport in Fayetteville, NC. Sweet airport. Lots to do. Not. Imagine the inside members of Elsinore Jedi after their first tunnel training camp as a 4-way VFS team. Meili Modini, Adam Tippie, Jonathan Tagle, and me. At that camp, Jonathan went from not being able to do released transitions to us all doing 4-way together as a team. He went to Paraclete three days early and worked his A** off to get up to speed in the tunnel. I remember him texting me totally frustrated two days in, worried he wouldn’t be ready for our camp. Of course he didn’t let anything stop him and he made that sh*t happen. Like he did with everything. Duh. Boom, there we were eyeball-to-eyeball upside down across from each other, learning, laughing,“talking” the whole time, no sh*t we’re doing this! So awesome. Makes me smile just writing it. There really is little better than doing a team with your best friends.

 

1017279_10152034902173135_2137410466_nI remember when the first thought of doing a team together came up at one of our round-table talks.. you know, those talks that cover nothing and everything. Where you don’t even notice it’s been 4 hours. Where you talk about the stupidest sh*t and come up with the best ideas you’ve ever had. Some you never do, and others that change your life. Talks where you fully uncover yourself knowing you’re completely accepted no matter what comes out of your brain and being. Talks where true friendship and unconditional love is born and built.

 

So let’s go back to bustling Fayetteville Airport, and let’s imagine the same crew now knowing what we know. Imagine a digital camera and Elsinore Jedi waiting out the couple hours ahead of their flight home. What to do? Well, obviously we had to use the camera and it’s ten megapixels to take pictures up our noses. I’m not kidding, people, I don’t think I have ever laughed that hard for that long in my entire life. Each one of us took a turn exposing the insides of our noses. Holy CRAP. Seriously, if you haven’t done this, you have NO idea how completely revealing it feels to zoom in on the details of your inner nostril. But that’s the kind of sh*t you do with your best friends.

 

170475_3711854869550_1228205291_oThe expanse of a friendship can go everywhere from inside our nose to beyond death. True friendship never dies. It lives on in us, in how we are changed by those friends, in how we choose differently because of their influence. Knowing Jonathan has been one of the greatest gifts in my entire life, and I know even with the years I have ahead of me that very few will ever be able to compete. But that’s how he was, wasn’t he? The best of the best, and from where I sit, most definitely the best of friends.

 

I love you, Jonathan. See you on the flip side for more M&P’s and synchronized swimming. Tizzle 2.0, out.


 

About Melanie Curtis

Melanie Curtis is a life coach, writer, speaker, world traveler, art lover, movie-maker, professional skydiver, devoted family member, fierce friend, and Founder and CEO of melaniecurtis.com and Highcomms LLC. Melanie goes huge in all aspects of her life, living her version of “the dream,” and helps other people live theirs too through coaching, education, transformative conversations, and no-nonsense accountability.

3 thoughts on “My Tizzle”

  1. I remember when you wrote this. I remember feeling bad and wishing you had not lost one of your best friends. Sounded pretty bad to me. Of course I never met Jonathon so I was fairly disconnected from it. You lived far away and it was more of something you just told me about and then my own life went back to being in my face and where my attention was. I am so sorry if I was it “there” enough for you during this time. I feel like I was, but at the time I don’t think I really understood where you were inside. Since then, and less than a year later, April 27, 2013 happened. My life was forever changed. I GET IT NOW. No one can replace your best friend but you are the lucky one to have had that person in your life and touched you like they did. I welled up with tears reading your article this time. I felt emotions that I know you must have felt, and most like do still feel from time to time. I know I do. Not a day goes by when I don’t think of MY best friend. Pictures fade. Tattoos fade. I pray the love for my friend never fades, and I hope I tear up for the rest of my life when things like this make me think of my best friend. I love you Sis. Major Bro Out.

  2. Your article again brought me to tears thanks for caring so much for my brother and being the amazing friend that you are! Until we see each other again love you Mel!

    1. Melanie it is so touching what you wrote. I am so glad you both were able to experience such a wonderful, genuine friendship! You describe him so well, that in spite of the emotion you made me laugh. That is the Jonathan I remember every day. We love you!

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